Rely only on your own arms

This is something I come back to several times. It's a lesson from Robert Greene's "33 Strategies of War." It's a very hard lesson. We are dependent on so many things. The key is in remembering that the things we are dependent may not necessarily be material in nature. We rely on what we've learned, what we've developed - we rely on what worked, and what we think might work. 

It's a horrible thing to doubt yourself in this way. You have to second-guess yourself, and that's when you realize the full extent of what you leave on auto-pilot every second of every day. What I've found is that there are principles to correct action. For instance, in the martial arts one strives to move with the barest minimum of effort; moves are not supposed to be excessively committed to; one must be able to change to the situation immediately. In dealing with oneself, there are a multitude of biases one's mind is subject to; considering carefully is important, but one must not let fear creep into the process of decision-making. When dealing with others, remember they have their own agenda - we all are subject to conflicts of interest. The input of others is useful as feedback, but never as a judgement of your inherent worth.

Wishing for more of something doesn't help; in many cases doing so is a waste of time as more is not forthcoming. We have to make do with what we have, and hopefully at the same time grow because if we survive the current predicament odds are good another, potentially greater, problem is on the way. Someone once told me, the problems you have today won't be the same things you worry about fifty years from now. It's not much, but I still want to reach that future. 

So I pay attention. And when the chips are down, I pay attention even more. May we never divorce ourselves from reality. Keep fluid. These things I tell myself, everyday - but what happens isn't always what we intend.